i feel guilty for kissing another guy i feel guilty for kissing another guy

So, you went to a party and everyone was drinking. I could list so many reasons why, but instead Ill just list a few. Other way around. I was dumped.so why do *I* feel guilty? reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2006): A By clicking 'Submit' or otherwise submitting this form you agree to the, By entering this site you declare I kissed another girl while black out drunk, dont remember a thing. :-) I mean, *I* don't mind if your relationship continues slowly but surely remaining on the skids, do I. I appreciate you taking the time to reply to me, I can see you feel very passionate about infidelity, however, on this occassion I won't be taking your advice. By clicking 'Accept and continue' you consent to our use of cookies in accordance with your preferences which can be reviewed / updated at any time via our Privacy Policy. It was such a weird experience. I feel like my husband deserves so much better, but can't tell him because the guy isn't some stranger, he's a person I see 5 days a week, and I know if tables were turned and I was in my husbands position I would wonder what interactions were happening between the two in work everyday. I think your just another female using your man until a better option comes along your husband should dump you because one of these days your going dump him if he doesnt. VerticalScope Inc., 111 Peter Street, Suite 600, Toronto, Ontario, M5V 2H1, Canada. It was the most thrilling feeling I ever had watching my wife kiss and make out with another guy. See "The 5 Ingredients of an Effective Apology"; you probably miss at least two of them when you apologize. I felt disorientated. JavaScript is disabled. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. Not work you put off until 'tomorrow' - TODAY. Him coming to you within 2 days of his wayward deed , when he could have easily gotten away with it, this is something to consider. (Ta-daaaa!) Lol I love you already. I too stand by my post as well-doing what is right as it relates to this issue is hardly ever the path taken. I have posted a vent and been waiting for your scathing reply. What should I do. I dont believe in innocent kiss. You can even introduce is as you 'having something to tell him that you're very proud of yourself over and wholly expect will make him proud of you too'..such as: View related questions: Lol (SK: no, it's just one of those places that's never appealed, holiday-wise, no doubt exacerbated by the fact I don't like long-haul flights for how they literally do my head in (think it's the aircon gas plus oxygen deprivation (don't get me started)) often lasting for a whole week afterwards, which isn't exactly what I call having a nice time.) I had a kind of aha reaction because I realized I was attracted to him. Because just as everyone else is saying, if you did the RIGHT thing, you shouldn't feel guilty. He encouraged me to to ring for a taxi from his house which I did. 3. I dont know which country u belong from but where i live I don't think men here like us to talk to strangers , men are our protectors and the bread earners, men on the whole are possessive of their females all around the world specially in case like yours if you have been too much loyal to each other,however if we assumed both of u to be flirt or too outgoing-means in case of slping wid ppl etc then u could share an event like a normal secretbut remember this is not merely a secret its equal to CONFESSING A CRIME/yes disloyality is a crime another man can not touch u after u r marryd to sombdy-if i take myself into account i can never allow any guy to touch me its only my hubbys right to see and love me even he says my loyalty is his most precious asset:) so if u do confess then he forgives or not for ur crime is his decision- I would recommend you should avoid telling him n you should change your job or timings as soon as possible because he that boy may try to exploit the situation tell your hubby though it has little chance but still you should be careful. reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2006): A My piano instructor came over once a week, usually on a Saturday when my husband was home. :p Cell phones, texting, emails etc. I am the same way. Biological ones. If this is bothering you, then tell him. Why? One is your marriage, the other is a relationship with a married man with family. That's what it takes to have a Grade A romance that never dies. Funny, I have never gotten amorous when I have had too much to drink. Married woman slaps sleazebag's face and leaves. I love your stories, Foxie. Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Genie, I think being honest is always the best because. Ugh, basically. My husband always encouraged me to pursue music, and, when I told him that this guy wanted to give me advanced piano lessons, my husband was in favor of this. For starters, you've no way of knowing whether this other woman *was* genuinely asleep or whether she might gossip to someone who goes and gossips to someone else, etc.. Plus, you don't know what this bloke might choose to do or whom he might blurt it out to the next time he gets drunk (back and forth male posturing on a lads' night out, for example)! I went out for drinks in town last night and got extremely drunk and kissed another man, it only lasted not even a few seconds but I feel so so so guilty and wish I could take it back. Do you think it's better to alleviate your guilt by hurting someone you loved or better to just deal with it on your own? ;-p I'm sure you'll survive if you don't tell him and I'm certain that he doesn't need to know. Of course there would have to be a lot of transparency in the marriage there after. It was a real dress up affair, and the drink flowed freely all night long. Whoever did it, doesnt matter. I was drunk on Friday night and I kissed another guy. / Dyathinkhesaurus? What should I do. Sincere apology if my assumption is wrong. you are 18 or older, you read and agreed to the. It should prevent you from repeating your actions. If you kissed a stranger, your significant other might just react by laughing or by telling you its okay. The Fora platform includes forum software by XenForo. Then you must be doing it wrong. Hang on because I'm sure there will be other people who believe differently from me. (No, I'm very passionate about fidelity.) So what do you think? Oh, and FYI again: so drunk I didn't know what I was doing tends NOT to be so plugged-in she 5 minutes beforehand notices the sleeping other person needs a blankie and a tucking-in. I see this as two issues. A couple of nights ago I went out to a work function. Like stateside, maybe southern California or San Diego? When we went to bed that night, I started crying because I realized what had happened and I felt confused and guilty all at the same time. (Y)), Hey its really grtt to hear tht u really care n lot of emotion for ur hubbyv only come to kno abt our loyalty only when things like this happens.u kissed him thn u realised that u hv done mistake bcoz u really love ur hubby n dnt want to cheat him.but since commuting mistakes is a part of human nature n being human it happened but determined urself for not to continue or commit such mistake is the real proof of being loyal. I had three I know, I need to start a thread. But living a lie would be so much worse. You knowing you can trust your husband to do the right thing when faced with temptation is all it takes for him to remain blight-free when blight (whether or not wearing fishnets) threatens. In fact, you dont even have to tell your partner what you did because it was an innocent kiss. Go to a therapist if you think it could help you work through why this has appealed so much. I've been Dating a married Albanian man for 6 months already and NOT proud of it.Just wanna share my, Hurt my ex girlfriend, feel guilty and don't know what to do. I still feel so guilty and I just don't know what to do. What if your husband ever found out? Yes Im addiction there are things called SUDs.. For me, to feel guilty about having sex with someone, while in a relationship with someone else, I must have remorse. Once my tennis coach misread me, came into my house, and gave a peck on my cheeks, in India, kissing is not a social gesture. Confesing to your husband was risky. I agree with you about her being straight forward and telling her husband about the kiss and not holding back any secrets. If, on the other hand, you kissed someone whom you knew or someone your significant other believes youve always liked, and then you confess that you kissed him or her, your actions could have major consequences for your relationship Why? Personally, I think even innocently returning a kiss is cheating, although Id probably keep it to myself! Lee, thats a good way to CYA - pretend youre talking about this as if it happened to someone else and then gauge your partners reaction. Some song came on and it was a soppy song and we were both singing along. Mr S lived there once (San Fransisco), but he hasn't any urge to return, either. But there's a psychological ingredient missing as naturally affects the optimum biological conditions I didnt tell him. I have to admit that by kissing this guy whom I liked, I did cheat on my husband. There was a lot of biting and groping going on, because, you know, the guys were giving it their best shot. Reviewed by Gary Drevitch. reader, missbunbury+, writes (25 October 2005): A female Many people who get drunk become more amorous, and if our significant others arent with us at the time of our drinking binge, we might be inclined to kiss or even have sex with someone else because were not playing with a full deck when were drunk. reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2005): Already have an account? Simone was telling a caller how satisfy his girlfriend. 2023 FemaleFirst Ltd. all rights reserved. Don't have an account? I told him later that I thought it was misunderstood and apologized. After all, if you're still berating yourself for what you did, it won't matter whether or not your partner has totally forgiven you. This. However, before you choose option 3, you need to talk to the person you kissed when you are sober again and make sure that the other person has strong feelings for you, too. I felt disorientated. I was heart broken, and even though he said he immediately pulled away, and we stayed together and over time forgot about it, I remember feeling so uneasy every time I knew he would be in that girls company. And it's weird, but it's like I need the guy to tell me what I did was ok and I'm not a bad person. It happened two days ago. And he grabbed my waist!. Which probably makes you wonder why I came here in the first place. So as far I doing it wrong I wouldn't know. It was important to hear the argument for doing what is right. I feel so bad since then. This guy wouldnt take money from me (I should have seen this as a Red Flag, but didnt), so I bought him opera scores in order to compensate him for his time and expertise. It's where the lips have been and where they're going. Thankfully, he immediately and apologetically backed right off (which was when we woke this other woman and they both left), and, luckily, put his apologetic money where his mouth was by phoning me the very next day to say how stupid and guilt-wracked he felt, assuring me it would NEVER happen again so could I please forgive him and just forget it ever happened. Something like that changes almost everything in a marriage. She may say that. Anyway I'll get off this post now. I'm not sure how long we were there when one of the women decided to call it a night, and left in a taxi. Myself and the man were sitting next to each other on the couch, and the other woman was sitting on another couch at the other side of the room. I mean if a person can't rely on their own strength of character and self-discipline to stop them from crossing that line, they obviously NEED an outside deterrent. by Lucy Moore for relationships.femalefirst.co.uk My opinion, fwiw, is that what you did was not that bad. Everyone is telling me not to say anything because it was so long ago and it never happened again, or will it ever. I'm not married nor have I ever been married. Yes, I think if your boyfriend thinks his girl or boy or whatever is gonna be loyal to them even under the influence. BTW lips are also very much a part of foreplay that's what I've read. I did say gateway to sex at first didn't I. I didnt hear from my piano teacher for at least two weeks after that. Are you sure you didnt have sex with him/her? the guy has a long term girlfriend who he lives with and he said she was really angry with him for coming home so late, then he said, look, I think we're good people that completely lost our minds for 5 minutes, and are suffering major guilt for it now, but it will never ever happen again, and I'm not going to say a word to anyone' to which I replied 'neither am I' and he said 'ok, look I'll see you on Monday but this is going to be ok, don't worry, we can move on from this' Translation: I believe I wish to say, what the hell, what were we doing only I have a competing urge to chose a phrase that could be taken two ways, to ask, where are we at aka what happens with we two now? Because I already had some unresolved feelings for this guy and I let him kiss me and used the fact that I was drunk as an excuse. What you *can* have is the Biggest B*lls on the Block award. You'll have to accept it, face up to it, and put it behind you. I feel like I am hypnotized by the guy. Guilt occurs primarily in interpersonal contexts and is considered a "pro-social" emotion because it helps you maintain good relations with others. Add your answer to this question! Truth-seekers are never popular. You lied to me for 2 years? What am I going to do? And he kissed me and I reciprocated. Oh, I see. Should I tell him or just get on with my life and put this whole sorry mess behind me? Or do I? The 2 Most Psychologically Incisive Films of 2022, The Surprising Role of Empathy in Traumatic Bonding. Your choice, as ever. (As you were), It happened to me,too last Jan.31,2016, and it happened again in the following days. I'm not telling him because I don't want to mess this up. ;-D. Ahhhh you're back! The video shows twogayguys(fellow vloggers Jordan Jayro and James Butler) partner with four straight men togive them their first man-to-mansnog. It's not that big of a deal anyway and you aren't going to do it again. And Ill tell you why by first giving you some context the back. , By entering this site you declare Your guilt is your punishment. For me i felt guilty for enjoying it so much. Arun, I agree with everything you said here because I was guilty of kissing a guy I liked when I was drunk, knowing that I liked him and wanted to see how much.". One way to alleviate guilt is by taking action. NO don't actually make it easy for him to have ANY KIND OF RELATIONSHIP with this woman!!!!